How to Create Change in Your Life
The greatest constant in life is change. A bit of a paradox, but true. The world around us changes so fast, at times, it's difficult to keep up. The world, the weather, culture, politics, styles, music, our friends. Everything is changing all the time. Yet, despite the never ending movement and flux within our world, the greatest challenge any of us face is to effectively create change within ourselves.
The Three Levels of Being That Help Us Create Change
To understand how we go about creating change in our lives, we first need to understand the process. Whatever it is we choose to change---our behavioral patterns, our work habits, our relationship with money, our physique, our spiritual understanding or evolution, our attitudes, our worries and phobias, etc., the process of change is remarkably similar. To effectively create change within ourselves, that change must occur at three different levels of our being: our conscious mind, our subconscious mind, and our energy (the expression of which shows up in our lives as our habituated emotional response to specific events and beliefs). Each of these levels of our being work in concert with one another and are inextricably linked. Pretty much everything we do in life and everything we create is a result of the interaction between our conscious and subconscious minds and our energy field. They're like three employees who work closely with one another. And when they work together on a common goal, their success rate is off the charts. While it's pretty easy to change our mind at the conscious level, changing our mind at the subconscious level and changing the flow of our energy requires a bit of skill. And that's where self-hypnosis can help as a tool that gives us the framework to effectively create change within ourselves. Now it's time to take a close look at these three levels of being.
1. Conscious Mind - This is the part of our mind we understand the best. It's present with us all day long, and it's the part of our mind we're aware of. We think with this part of our mind and make decisions--it's the boss (at least seemingly). The conscious mind learns through our five senses and evaluates and analyzes and judges what we perceive through those five senses. It's the part of us that decides when we're ready to make changes in our lives. But even though it's the boss, our conscious mind requires help from our subconscious mind and our energy to successfully create the changes we want to make.
2. Subconscious Mind - This part of our mind is mysterious and powerful. Our subconscious mind regulates the various systems of our body: our circulatory system, digestion and elimination, breathing, along with other involuntary functions. But as far as creating change goes, our subconscious mind has three responsibilities that directly affect our ability to create changes in our lives. First off, our subconscious mind is the home of our emotions, and it's our emotions that often dictate our choices in life. Secondly, our subconscious acts as a repository for all our memories and our belief systems. And thirdly, our subconscious has the responsibility for carrying out our habituated patterns of behavior--based on our belief systems and our energetic response to our beliefs. There's no question that our subconscious mind is the key cog in making effective changes in our lives.
3. Energy - This is the least understood of the three levels of our being. Energy creates the feelings we have based on our thoughts and belief systems. And it's all automated through our subconscious. Energy is responsible for creating our emotional reactions to our thoughts and beliefs in response to the world we see. Most of the time, we hardly notice our energetic responses to our beliefs, unless they're very big. But changing our energy in relationship to what we want to change is critical to our success. If our energy response/reaction isn't in alignment with the beliefs behind the changes we're trying to make, the changes aren't likely to occur. Here's an example. Joe has convinced himself (consciously) that he wants to quit smoking. But the truth is that his choice is based on his family's desire for him to quit smoking. Joe still loves to smoke. So when the moment comes for him to smoke or not smoke, his love for smoking (his emotional, energetic response) is easily going to overwhelm his lukewarm desire to quit, which is based on his family's desire rather than his own. He will continue to smoke because his emotional/energetic response is greater than his family-based desire for him to quit. The bottom line is that we need to align our energy with our desire and our beliefs in order to be successful and create change.
How All Three Levels Work Together
Creating change occurs when all three levels of our being (conscious, subconscious, energy) work in concert with one another to create the change we seek to make. It's critical that all three levels of being are aligned with our intended goal. Let's say I wanted to learn to be more patient with my teenage daughter. First, I need to look at what's going on now. Let's say she keeps putting off doing her homework, and I lose my cool and raise my voice to her. But I don't want to react that way because I don't think it's an appropriate response. But I can't seem to help myself. And I repeat the pattern over and over again. She puts off doing her homework; I see that she hasn't done her homework; I have a physical, energetic reaction (perhaps a tightening in the chest); my energetic reaction is based on my belief that she should do her homework and get it done on time (maybe my parents got angry with me for the same reason); I raise my voice to her (another energetic reaction based on my belief system which is directly responsible for this pattern of behavior); She feels bad and is upset, and I feel bad and am upset.
After having the same experience over and over again, I'm finally ready to make a change. The desire is there to make a change, but now I have to find a way to create the change.
Self-Hypnosis as a Tool for Change
When it comes to creating effective change, the most effective tool for change is self-hypnosis. Self-Hypnosis allows us to work through our subconscious mind to change our beliefs as well as our energy in relation to those beliefs. Our subconscious mind not only memorizes our beliefs, but it also memorizes the emotional response we have to those beliefs which are stored in the cells of our body. Now that I'm ready to change my experience with my daughter, I use a simple self-hypnosis session to create that change. This may take me a month or longer, but it will improve my relationship with my daughter. Here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to do a visualization every night where I imagine the same situation arising with my daughter's homework. Only I'm going to practice having a different response when I see she hasn't done her homework. I'll imagine myself being relaxed and calm. And then I'll envision myself having a more appropriate response. Perhaps I'll reduce her allowance. Maybe I'll spend time talking to her about the importance of school. But however I choose to handle the situation, I'll do it in a more calm, relaxed way. Better for her and me.
This visualization incorporates all three level of my being (conscious, subconscious, energy) working in concert with one another to create change. Visualizations can help to reprogram thoughts and feelings at a cellular level. Your subconscious mind will retrain your energetic response in relationship to the change your conscious mind is seeking to make. So if you want to make changes in your life, you might give self-hypnosis a try.
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